Number 9: Hating Their Favorite Music: The Soundtrack of Trauma
Suddenly hating their favorite music, the music you once loved now makes your stomach turn. It’s not because your taste has changed, but because the narcissist made those songs dirty. They were played during love-bombing, gaslighting, and during betrayal. That one playlist became the soundtrack of your trauma, so you delete it, skip it, or mute it. But what hurts more is the complex grief, not just for the music but for the version of you who used to love it: that innocent joy, that open heart, that moment in time that now feels like a lie. Healing isn’t just about letting go of the narcissist; sometimes it’s about mourning the little things they took, like your favorite song.
Number 10: Over-Analyzing Texts: Fear of Miscommunication
Over-analyzing every text message they send you, type a message, then reread it, then delete it, then rewrite it. You overthink the whole conversation: the tone, the punctuation, the emojis. You ask yourself, “Did that sound too harsh? Will they think I’m mad? I’m crazy? Should I add a smiley to soften it?” Even with friends, even with safe people. Why do you do this? Because you have been trained to believe your words can explode things, that your honesty can ruin everything, that being misunderstood is extremely dangerous. So, you live in delay, in overcorrection, in fear of being too much or not enough. And that is exactly what narcissistic abuse does: it makes even a text message feel like a minefield.
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