Number 1: “It’s for your good.”
This phrase is a sneaky way of justifying control or manipulation while pretending to be helpful. It’s a favorite move of covert narcissists, who often say things like, “I’m just concerned about you.” But what they’re doing is hiding their true motives. They want to act as though they care, as if they’re only looking out for your best interests. But this is the thing: it’s all an illusion to demean you. If they’re speaking about you publicly or privately, these words are a revelation of who they are. They wish to belittle you, all under the disguise of kindness and concern.
For instance, you’re wearing a dress and everyone is complimenting you on how lovely you look. Then you approach a narcissist and you ask him or her what he or she thinks, and don’t be surprised if he or she shatters your ego by telling you something like, “That dress? That’s not you. Are you sure you should wear that?” And it’s not just about what you wear. If you love spending time with your friends, a narcissist may say, “Them? They’re not exactly good companions to you.” Likely, they don’t think like that, however. They’re only attempting to have you intentionally self-isolate.
Or, if you are passionate about a career, a narcissist will attempt to dampen your enthusiasm and discourage you, because your dream career won’t happen, but because they don’t want you to be less enthusiastic about your aspirations.
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