Number 1: They will Hoover.
Oftentimes, let’s say you discard the narcissist, and the narcissist will Hoover sometimes immediately, and sometimes they’ll just wait and give you time, and they do this strategically because they don’t initially Hoover automatically. They give time to allow you to kind of simmer down, to allow you to kind of get over whatever it was that hurt you enough to either discard them or to get over the fact that they discarded you or ghosted you.
They give you time strategically to kind of simmer down off of that raw emotion, and then they catch you off guard. And you’ll have feelings like, “Oh my goodness, well maybe I can get back at this person, or maybe I can entertain this on some sort of level,” but no, you should not do it.
Number 2: You have to remember that there’s a reason why you left the narcissist.
You should always have precision maintenance on hand,” and decision maintenance is, you know, putting a note in your phone, recording a quick video to keep on your phone or somewhere near you so that when the narcissist shows up out of nowhere and you start to feel those butterflies and you feel the addiction, and coming back up to the surface, you have the decision maintenance.
You have something concrete you can look at and say, “Wow, even though I’m feeling this, I wrote down a memo where I remember this time with a narcissist, specifically did this to me, and this is how I felt” I still have the video in my phone of the day that I left and decided to go no contact because I wanted to make sure I always had something on hand for minutes that I was feeling weak. So, always remember, there’s a reason that you left and the narcissist did not change.
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