Number 5 and the last one: When you break the family curse. See, my father continued the curse exactly the way his father was abusive, malicious, vengeful, disconnected, cruel, cunning, and a total psychopath to his family and others. He perfectly created a minion. My grandfather, my father, never stood up, never asked himself, “Am I doing the right thing? How are my choices impacting my family? How am I being present in my child’s life? What is that going to lead to?” He believed that “Oh yeah, I will have control over my son’s life for eternity.” But God had different plans for me.
So, when you go against the devil, when you undo his plans, when you destroy his monstrousness through your actions, through healing your wounds, through healing your generational trauma, that is when you are going to give him a big narcissistic injury. And that devil in your life is that narcissistic family system you came from, or the narcissistic partner who wanted you emotionally dead, who wanted you to suffer for eternity.
When you create your own family, and that family is very different the dynamics within are so different than the one you were raised in that is when they also feel duped because they see you as a perfect individual. If you treat your partner harshly or the way they treated your other parent (who was not a narcissist) if you exactly do what is right to a narcissist, they feel validated. However, when you make different choices, and it’s happening in front of their eyes, they can’t do anything about it. They can’t brainwash you anymore. They cannot gaslight you into thinking, “Oh, you are making a mistake,” or “You are giving too much importance to the other person, to your children, to yourself.” That is when they feel truly defeated, duped, betrayed, neglected, and abandoned but for good.
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