Reason 4: Keeping Them Apart and Training Discernment
Narcissists rely on having several lines of supply available to them, friends, relatives, co-workers, and love interests who feed their hunger for validation and control. You’re aware of that. But you were brought into their life as the one who would finally shut them off from these attachments. Your presence began to make others perceive their own selves. Others who had once been manipulated by their charm began to feel the manipulation, deception, and emotional abuse through your experience.
I know you can comment, “Well, they have a whole crew of flying monkeys facilitating it.” I get it. To some extent, the real ones, the ones being deceived and abused, woke up due to your presence. You were the catalyst that brought their way of life into the light to the entire social community. Those who would rise and do something about it indeed rose.
How the narcissist treated you became so painfully abusive that others had to decide between blindness and eyesight. Many people who had enabled or turned a blind eye to their lifestyle previously could no longer look away from the evidence of the way that they treated you. You were the last straw that broke the camel’s back of their social charade. It was karmic revenge.
They had been driving people away from their support groups for decades, mostly turning people against one another and utilizing social dynamics against themselves for their interests. You were deployed to turn this around on them, to be the cause they lost the very support groups they had used to hurt others. During your stay as their karma, restraining them from their pseudo-support group, their manipulative nature helped you learn to see behind masks and find real people.
Their deceptions taught you to listen to your gut if something did not feel right. Their betrayals helped you differentiate between true loyalty and fake support. By the way they treated you, you learned to see red flags in an instant. You cultivated an inbuilt warning system, which I name “Narcraar,” that warns you to beware of manipulation, love bombing, and grand promises.
You learned the skill of seeing the true intentions of people behind their words. Although you were their karma, revealing their manipulative nature, their presence was teaching you how not to be manipulated any longer.
I want to say it again: I’m not doing anything to give credit to the narcissist. I am not diminishing the hurt you’ve endured and the possible lifetime of psychological scarring you’ll take years to heal from. What I’m indicating is that this is deeper spiritual learning. This ought to provide you with some kind of closure that the narcissist could never do by themselves.
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