Number 3: Lack of Genuine Connections
They don’t have a real relationship with anyone. This is one of the saddest forms of torture they go through, and they are not even conscious of it. They don’t even call it that. They don’t even know what a real relationship feels like, not with their husband, not with their kids, not with friends, nor even with themselves. All that they think and say passes through manipulation, superiority, and dishonesty, which they did so much of that even they have started believing themselves now. All their personality is constructed on a fake conception about the world without any basis.
One blow in their vulnerable area, and they collapse. They exchange love as a commodity and relationship as a tool. And so when they do return home at the end of a long day, there is no one to whom they can be truthful, no one whom they can disintegrate before, and no one on whom they can depend to carry their pain. They are “with” persons, many persons, and profoundly alone. They do not understand the language of intimacy. Physical affection is completely mechanical. S**x is a function. Warmth is embarrassing.
Now you tell me, is that living? Is that happiness? I’ll not, because it is not. They don’t get to know what it feels like to be in bed with a person in their arms and feel safe, or be with a person in silence without needing attention or not being afraid, or laugh without pretending. Because when you pretend to be somebody, every moment is hollow. That’s the jail that they reside in, one that is filled with individuals who never truly know them because they never opened themselves up to be known.
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