Number 1: “What makes you happy?”
If a narcissist were truly honest in answering this question, the answer would be “nothing.” Narcissists tend to look for things to make them happy, and yes, one of those things is supply, and that often means a new relationship. You were once the thing—the supply—that made the narcissist happy, and this would have been in the idealization phase. This is when they’re idealizing you and they think you’re amazing, before the devaluation phase where things start falling apart. But happiness is an inside job. External things can’t sustain your happiness for very long if you’re truly unhappy inside.
So, when you ask what makes a narcissist happy, you might hear about their new car, relationship, or job, but ask the same question a few months later, and you’re likely to get a different answer. And if they don’t point to an object or something that’s currently providing supply, they might just tell you what they think you want to hear: “You make me happy” or “My kids make me happy.” But you’ll notice that they’re just as miserable around you and their kids, or whatever it was they told you, as ever. And you’ll also notice that they can’t be bothered to spend time with or around this apparent source of happiness. Curious, isn’t it?
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