Daughters of narcissistic mothers will likely experience a lack of empathy.
Narcissists in general and narcissistic mothers are not understanding the thoughts or feelings of other people. They only think about themselves, they often see other people as objects, attachments, or competition. They don’t view people as individuals with varying needs and different emotions. As a result, they can’t tell you how you feel about your experience because you’re different than them; they can’t put themselves in your shoes.
Instead, they’ll usually make you feel bad if you think or feel differently from them. When the daughter of a narcissistic mother experiences pain or hurt, they’ll just tell them to pull themselves together and get over it. If they dare to tell them that something their mother has said hurt them. They’ll blame them for being too sensitive instead of really trying to understand how they hurt them and change their behavior.
They will rather shift the blame back to them. This in turn can make the daughter feel like she’s not being hurt and her feelings aren’t justified. She’ll start to think maybe she has no right to feel the way she does; she’ll start to believe maybe she is too sensitive. She’ll stop expressing her feelings to people when she’s upset because of the fear of rejection. This will cause her to repress her feelings and can lead to bouts of depression and a lack of boundaries.
Daughters of narcissistic mothers will feel neglected. Some narcissistic mothers are so preoccupied with themselves that they have no capacity to genuinely raise their children. The daughters of a narcissistic mother may feel more like they were raised by wild animals. They never had any rules or boundaries, and they grew up to be someone who needs these things to thrive.
Instead of caring for you, they may have focused all their time and energy on their career, hobbies, or intimate relationships. In these cases, even though they may have provided all the basic needs their daughter needed to live, the emotional piece is lacking. They never took the time to build the emotional connection that is needed in a parent-child relationship.
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