Number 2: If they wake up, you’ve got to get out of your bed immediately.
Narcissists see other human beings as extensions of themselves. You’re nothing but available to meet their agenda. The second they wake up, your rest, your sleep, and your requirements are utterly irrelevant. Doesn’t matter. My father surely did this for my whole life. The second he woke up, he would wake up the whole household, and we’d leap into instant, panicked activity. He would wake me up at 5:30 or 6:00 in the morning, pounding on my door loudly, cursing and screaming at me for having the audacity to still be asleep.
It did not occur to him that I had chronic insomnia and worked frantically to gain restful sleep. His sleep patterns were never in any way interrupted by the trauma that he was causing, and so he had no sympathy or compassion for anyone else’s pain. We all had a specific, moment-by-moment job: shining his shoes, ironing his shirts, fixing his breakfast, or laying out his lunch. Our house became an assembly line, masterfully built to survive only for him.
Our joy and mental health were completely disregarded by him. This relentless morning ritual drained and drained us all, confirming his supremacy and ours as his obedient servants. We woke up each morning exhausted and completely demoralized, and that was strictly according to his manipulative agendas.
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