Number 3: They start arguing about nothing, the first thing in the morning.
A narcissist will not stand for you to be serene or satisfied. When you do get a decent night’s sleep or wake up feeling rested, it gets under their skin. Peace is independence, and relaxation is being self-contained; both are completely unacceptable in their warped reality. They immediately create little quarrels over some trivial thing: questions regarding missing spoons or improperly colored drapes. It all somehow balloons into a furious argument out of thin air.
The true agenda of the artificially created disturbance is to destabilize you and maintain your anxiety-ridden nervous system within chronic dysregulation, fret, and hyperarousal. The narcissist feeds on your distress and inner turmoil. They might not even deliberately utter it, but your deep sleep or even serenity is interpreted as defiance, and that’s why they are goaded into instant punitive action. Their early morning arguments are deliberately designed to fill your day with tension, frustration, and emotional unrest.
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Number 4: If they see you happy, they act miserable.
This is particularly prevalent among the insidious narcissists who are experts in playing it subtle with emotional manipulation. Your happiness, joy, or even mere contentment fills them with immediate wretchedness because they are wretched. They cannot tolerate an emotional atmosphere in which their inner state is not outwardly expressed. When you are upbeat and optimistic about your day, they have to be somber.
Their mood shifts; their discontentment permeates the air, and that tends to draw you down with it until your mood becomes identical to theirs. This psychological effect, referred to as emotional resonance, compels you into mutual negativity and destroys any autonomy, particularly emotional autonomy.
Your autonomous happiness comes across as rejection or abandonment to them, and that stimulates passive-aggressive tactics meant to drain your positive emotions. They are joy thieves, aren’t they? They work hard to make your mornings heavy with stress and emotionally exhausting. Why? Because they can’t stand your happiness as it threatens their control.
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