The narcissist doesn’t want to love a woman; he has to possess her. That’s why your pity never sufficed. It’s why your loyalty failed to bring you serenity. It’s why every time you attempted to make sense with him, he turned your reasoning into tools of war.
Obedience, to him, is love. Consent. Surrender. The moment you dissent from him, you’re his enemy. That’s why they date young, financially dependent, or emotionally needy women. Why? Because it’s not that they wish to protect them; they are less resistant. And the moment those women achieve strength, what do they do? The narcissist either increases the abuse or discards them like trash.
If he does, the secret nobody shares is that their disdain is rooted in self-disdain, that they are unhappy. Behind the ego and the pretty face lies something most overlook: self-loathing. Such men do not only hate women; they despise themselves for requiring women, for being so needy. They abhor their emotional vulnerability, their helplessness as children, the vulnerable aspects of themselves that ever wept, pleaded, or longed to be loved.
Each time they encounter a strong woman, they’re reminded how weak they are. And what do they do, of course? They lash out. They punish you for being what they can’t be and aren’t, for possessing what they don’t, for healing the wounds they never felt. And the more whole you are, the more they resent you because your existence takes away from them their whole life.
It all leads to the question: Why do they keep returning? They leave you, humiliate you, cheat on you, ghost you, and yet these men return. Why? Because somewhere deep inside, they know no other woman will tolerate them the way you have. No other woman will love them despite pain, sympathize with them, or forgive them for what they shouldn’t be forgiven for.
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