So let me explain how they act. Yang sanpaku individuals will:
Exhibit a desire to control the conversation with an empty, blank stare.
Have absolutely no remorse when they hurt you and make eye contact with no emotion behind it.
Be hyper-logical, where you feel examined, not observed.
Become angry when you do not make eye contact because eye contact is how they emotionally anchor you.
This is why survivors of narcissistic abuse will say, “It was the way they looked at me. I don’t know how to explain it; it chilled me to the bone.” It’s not paranoia; it’s physiology. Their eyes were never warm; their glare was a weapon they used against you.
Yin Sanpaku: The Survivor’s Stare
Let’s reverse this and discuss opposites: yin sanpaku. Here, the white underneath the iris, so that the iris appears to be hovering high in the eye socket. The eyelid on the top may appear tense, and the look appears startled, bewildered, or downright overwhelmed. This is not an indication of nastiness; it is an indication of huge trauma.
Yin sanpaku people are the survivors, the empathetic, the sensitive souls who’ve seen too much too fast. They’ve got a nervous system revved to high gear. You might have these eyes; they seem to be scanning for danger because they are.
They leap and are overwhelmed by crowds.
They struggle with hypervigilance.
They freeze or dissociate in combat.
Do you possess any of these characteristics? I know that you do. Let me know in the comments. This is what occurs when your system has taken in more pain than it can handle. Although yang sanpaku displays the hunter, yin sanpaku displays the prey. That is why narcissists and empaths are opposite sides of the same coin; even their eyes lie.
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