Number 3: Make a Solid Plan
The CIA never extracts an agent without a careful plan, knowing all escape routes, safe places, and backup options. You need a similar detailed plan that anticipates every damn possibility. If you are physically leaving a narcissist, for example, quietly save money in a separate bank account, gradually secure important documents like passports, birth certificates, and financial records, and discreetly gather any necessary personal belongings. Confide in trusted friends, family members, or professionals who understand your situation inside out and can offer a haven or support.
If you are emotionally detaching, begin building a strong support network, quietly involving a therapist or a reliable friend who can offer ongoing emotional reinforcement and guidance. The same applies to you and your relationship with your children. You don’t have to announce it; you don’t have to let the narcissist know that you are strengthening your relationship with the children. You just have to do it. You apply the same method that I just explained to you, but consider contingencies for unexpected scenarios, such as sudden confrontations or attempts by the narcissist to disrupt your plans or your peace.
The subtlety and secrecy of your preparations are essential to avoid sabotage. Your plan must be comprehensive, firm, and strictly confidential without leaks or second-guesses. You see what I’m saying? Once you commit to your exit or emotional detachment, follow through decisively and without hesitation, knowing clarity and safety lie ahead.
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