Reclaiming Your Power and Healing
After the mask drops, after they have devalued you, discarded you, and maybe even humiliated you publicly, you would think they would walk away and never look back. But some narcissists come back not out of remorse, but out of withdrawal, not withdrawal from love, but withdrawal from control. That is their trauma bond. When you try to reclaim your power or create distance, it drives them crazy, drives them into panic, because you are escaping their leash.
That is why they show up late at night. That’s why they send that “I miss you” text. That’s why they hover around your life like vultures, and often, that’s why they push for one last s£x ual encounter, because they need to reassert dominance, not reconnect. The truth is, the narcissist does not care whether you are emotionally ready. They do not care if you’re grieving, shaking, or confused. The more shattered you are, the more satisfying it is to impose intimacy on you.
They do not ask, “Do you want this?” They imply, they pressure, they corner, they manipulate the moment so that resistance looks like rejection of them, and you are too tired to fight, too emotionally flooded to say no, too trauma-bonded to even know what your boundaries are anymore. That is how they like it, because the moment isn’t about consent or connection; it’s about dominance, the sheer thrill of taking something you were not offering without having to take it by force.
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Breakup s£x with a narcissist is a psychological assault. It’s not about pleasure; it’s not about closure either. It’s about reinfection. The moment your body opens up to them, your trauma deepens, your self-trust corrodes, and your mind splits between the person you want them to be and the monster they just revealed. That is why you, as a survivor, may often spiral after this moment. That’s why you feel dirtier, more ashamed, more confused than ever, because it was not s£x; it was possession.
If this happened to you, please do not blame yourself. This was not a weakness on your part; it was a psychological trap you were never trained to escape from. What you experienced was part of a cycle designed to break you. You’re not broken, but you are bleeding, and healing begins when you name what happened for what it was: a final act of domination, a fake goodbye wrapped in real trauma, a performance of connection from someone who wanted nothing but submission from you. Real love does not thrive in your devastation.
Real intimacy does not arrive when you are in tears. Real closure does not come from someone who always wanted to destroy you. The narcissist used your body as a stage to perform their last act of control, but you survived, and now you get to rewrite the ending. Don’t go back, don’t explain, don’t wait for closure. The fact that they needed to destroy you to feel powerful is proof that they were never powerful to begin with. They weren’t aroused by you; they were ar
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