It’s universally embarrassing, and it makes the partner laugh awkwardly, unsure of what to do. You’ve probably been there yourself. They’re not amusing jokes; they’re about domination, I promise. And more than that, they’re about your pain being devoured. Your pain is their gain. The unease that you experience at that moment becomes the fuel that makes them stand up.
They must make you cringe; they must make others mock you. That response provides them with a temporary high and relief from their internal breakdown. It makes them feel like they still have control over someone, so they continue to do it over and over and over again, using your pride to feed their perception of control.
Number 6: Constant Need for Attention
When the narcissist feels diminished in a group, what does he do? He throws overboard the person with whom he is grouped in an attempt to regain a sense of control. But what happens is that it only reveals how lost he is. He continues to scan the room to see who is looking at him. His body is present in the conversation, but his eyes are doing something different altogether. They glance over shoulders, they peek through doors, they watch reflections in window glass or phone screens.
They see who is laughing, who is avoiding them. It’s constant but subtle, but it speaks a thousand words. This is a person who is not anchored. They are not here; they’re acting for an imaginary audience they hope is still looking.
When their sense of self is eroding, they are fixated on proof that they still matter, that someone still sees them. And in public spaces, one can see it. It is a little like watching someone chase after their own shadow. It is just so bizarre, but it is pervasive.
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