Number 1: Sacred Commitment
Number one, you are deeply committed, and your commitment is sacred to you. You do not walk away at the first sign of trouble. You hold on, you fight for what matters. You take your values very seriously, especially the value of commitment, whether it is in work, relationships, goals, or healing—anything. And that is exactly why the narcissist kept pulling you back in. You were not addicted to chaos like them; indeed, there was an aspect of trauma bonding playing a role, but that’s not it. You were loyal to what you thought was love.
You believed that if you just tried harder, communicated better, stayed a little longer, loved a little deeper, you would eventually find peace. But what you did not realize was that your strength, your ability to hold on and work through pain, was being weaponized against you. And I want you to hear this: this commitment is not a flaw; it is a spiritual gift. It means you’re capable of sacred devotion very unique, but it must be offered to someone who can match your integrity, not someone who uses it against you.
Number 2: Belief in Goodness
Number two, you believe people are as good-hearted as you are, reverse projection. You don’t walk around suspecting everyone. You believe in people’s better nature; you assume honesty, decency, and kindness. And in a world that is starving for goodness, your heart is rare. But the same belief system is what the narcissist exploited. You did not think someone could lie that well, manipulate that quietly, hurt that consistently while smiling. It just did not compute because you do not operate that way.
You would never treat someone like that, so you gave them the benefit of the doubt again and again and again. This trait, I’m telling you, is not stupidity; it’s spiritual innocence, and that innocence is sacred. You just did not know it needed protection, but now you know better. You reverse-projected, which meant all the good qualities that you have, you projected them onto them. They project the bad stuff, yet you did the opposite.
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