Number 7: Belief in Love’s Transformative Power
Number seven, you believe love can change people. You believe in redemption stories. You have maybe even changed yourself with love. You have grown because someone loved you right, okay? So you think if you just love them harder, if you just hold on long enough, if you just see the good in them, they will wake up, especially if they have given you those childhood stories, how they were wronged, and how they are the victim of their circumstances.
The problem is, narcissists do not transform through love; they consume it. They use it, weaponize it. And this is the part no one tells you: your belief in their potential isn’t delusion; it’s prophecy, but it was meant for someone else, someone who is ready, someone who is willing. Love can change people thoroughly, just not people who refuse to look in the mirror.
Number 8: Admiration for Resilience
Number eight, you admire resilience so deeply that you ignored your own suffering. You are proud of your ability to bounce back, to keep smiling, to keep working, to function even while breaking. And while this helps you succeed in a lot of different aspects of your life, in relationships, it can blur your ability to recognize when something is hurting you because you always cope, you always adjust, you always stay productive.
But the soul doesn’t thrive in resilience alone; the soul thrives in rest, in being seen, in being loved, in knowing it doesn’t need to perform. The narcissist saw your resilience and thought, “I can do anything to them, and they’ll just stay; they’ll just put up with it.” That is not a reflection of your failure; that is a reflection of how deeply you were disconnected from your own right to peace.
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