Number 5: They bombard you with love.
You are on the first date and feeling spoiled to the max. You begin wondering to yourself why they’re treating you so kindly when they barely know you. You are getting whatever you ask for, compliment on top of compliment, and you are on cloud nine. It feels as if they are trying to buy your love. What you feel is exactly what’s going on. Narcissists know they are unable to charm you forever, so they attempt to win you over with overwhelming amounts of love and affection. To some, it may be too much and that can be how to spot a narcissist on the first date.
People who do not need to buy love will not feel the need to spoil you so much, but use their charm and wits to impress you, not their money. When your date makes you feel like they are deeply in love with you already, that can be a red flag. A narcissistic date will spend a lot of money on the first date to overwhelm you and make you feel like this is how your life could be all the time with them. It is also known as a luring method.
Number 6: They discuss previous relationships.
This may be odd, but it certainly does happen often. Many times a narcissist will go into detail on the first date about their past relationships and how awful they were to gain sympathy from their date. They will always play the victim, maybe admitting to small mistakes, but exaggerating how terrible the relationship was. They will go into detail about awful things their partner did and tend to overshare for first-date conversation. They want the person to feel a deeper connection to them and feel like the narcissist finds them trustworthy. This is a normal narcissistic date tactic.
The narcissist may even claim that their exes were narcissists and that they seem to always attract that type of relationship, but they’re glad they finally found someone different and wonderful. The non-narcissist may feel uncomfortable at first but then start to empathize with the narcissist and begin to feel welcome and loved. They want to be different from their exes. They want to make narcissist feel better about themselves. This form of manipulation is used often and usually has a tendency to work on more soft-hearted people.
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