They will drive a coworker to the airport at 4:00 a.m. without hesitation, but won’t even remember your birthday unless someone else reminds them. They will wire money to someone they met once in a Facebook group, but act like buying you medicine when you are sick is an inconvenience. They will spend hours crafting the perfect message of encouragement for a stranger’s breakup while ignoring the fact that you have been in tears all day. They will run errands for people who do not even ask, offer unsolicited help to acquaintances just to seem thoughtful, and forget to ask if you ate. They will remember everyone’s pain but yours.
That’s what I’m saying: they will be present for people they barely know and completely absent for the people sleeping under the same roof. That’s the irony. They will post about empathy, write long captions about humanity, and smile in group photos with people they just met, while their child cries in the next room and their partner wonders why love has started to feel like a rejection in slow motion.
It is a pattern, though, and once you see it, you cannot unsee it. You start realizing they’re not as generous as they pretend to be or that they care. They are generous because it buys them something. They want to be seen as the bigger person, as I said, the enlightened one, the hero, and the kind soul. But they aren’t.
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