Number 4: When two narcissistic people become parents.
It can be tough growing up, but it can be even more tough growing up with two narcissistic parents. How does it work in the household when both parents are narcissists? The probability of having two narcissistic parents is around 0.25%. It is a small chance but it does happen. When two narcissistic parents are raising a child, it can mean a few things.
One, the child is going to be scapegoated by both parents and the two narcissists will blame that child for anything that goes wrong. Two, the narcissists won’t be able to parent properly because they will be arguing with each other over who is the better parent and why. Lastly, the child will have to eventually raise themselves because the parents are incapable of caring for another person.
To go into detail on each account, we must first discuss two parents and the scapegoat. When you have two parents with narcissistic personality traits, the child is going to get the bad end of the stick. Because neither parent will ever take the blame for any trauma or something else happening in the house, they will drop the blame on the child. If the child is not like them or does not meet their expectations, they will be made into the black sheep.
The two parents will usually try to be better at scapegoating the kid and make it into a competition. When you have narcissistic parents, it is almost guaranteed that they will fight over who is better. They have to keep their ego inflated as much as possible. Their main focus will move from the child and their needs to fulfilling the needs of each other since in most relationships involving two narcissists, their needs are never truly met.
With that said, we can assume that the child will have to take care of themselves. This brings us to the next point. Eventually, the child will have to end up raising themselves. Narcissists have problems caring for another person, especially one with many needs like a child. The narcissistic parents will eventually grow bored of having to care for the child and teach the child how to do things on their own.
Once the child can do everyday normal things for themselves, the narcissistic parents will slowly ease their way out of the child’s care. This can be hard to imagine for normal parents. They usually want to do as much for their children as they can and let them grow up to be independent. Not narcissists, they want to teach their children independence as early as possible. Narcissism in parenting can show in other forms too.
Two narcissistic people having children can care for their children and do things for them, but they will focus on how they look more than what they need. An example would be that the parents can get their hair and nails done or new additions to their vehicles, but they won’t take their children to the eye doctor or the dentist. They will still cater to the child’s needs, such as food and hygiene, but they lack doing things for the child outside of the home. This is a common form of abuse by narcissistic parents.
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