Narcissism 101

10 Signs that You are Dealing with a Female Narcissist


Do you know a woman who is self-absorbed, often cruel, jealous, and critical? She may be a narcissist. Female narcissists are often overlooked.

Because they exhibit some of the same behaviors as typical teenage girls, female narcissists can go unnoticed and be passed off for simply being a “mean girl” — or a grown woman.

Female narcissists are often attractive and charming, making them seem like good people to be around at first glance. However, they lack any real depth, both personally and professionally. So, don’t be fooled by their beauty or charisma. Women can be just as narcissistic as men. They’re everywhere and you may be surprised to find that the woman you’re dealing with could be one.

Here are 10 signs that you are dealing with a female narcissist, read until the end you might be dealing with one.

 Number 1: A female narcissist is more concerned with her appearance than yours.

 A female narcissist is more interested in her appearance than yours. She’s more concerned with maintaining a certain look than you, she doesn’t care about how you look; she only cares about how hot she looks next to you. She’ll spend hours getting ready for a night out. But when it comes to you, she’ll dress up for herself, not for anyone else.

A female narcissist probably won’t notice if your hair is messy or your clothes don’t match upright. She’s too busy thinking about how well she looks compared to everyone else at the party. This means that while she thinks she’s being nice by complementing your outfit or lack thereof, she’ll also try to change how you dress or style yourself to feel better.

 Number 2: A female narcissist will say whatever it takes to get what she wants.

 A female narcissist will say whatever it takes to get what she wants. She’s charming, manipulative, and can be very persuasive. She’ll make you feel like you’re the most critical person when you need something; that’s how female narcissists get what she wants. She might say she wants to go out with you, but when the day comes, she’ll find an excuse not to. She’ll get angry at you for asking her to do something simple and small like grocery shopping or cooking dinner.

But here’s the thing, she doesn’t want to do those things, she doesn’t care about your needs or your happiness. She only cares about herself, and if she says something that makes it seem like she does care about you, well that’s probably another way of getting what she wants from you.

 Number 3: A female narcissist needs unquenchable attention, no matter how many people are around her.

 A female narcissist needs unquenchable attention, no matter how many people are around her. She can be incredibly charming and kind, but her deep insecurity makes her feel like she needs to be the center of attention. She is often knowledgeable and has a strong sense of entitlement and self-importance. She is also highly self-absorbed and can be very manipulative.

Although she can be very charismatic and charming in social situations, she tends to withdraw when things go wrong or feel threatened by someone else’s presence. She may become hostile if she feels like she is not getting enough attention or admiration. A female narcissist looks for partners who will worship her, and give her money in adoration. If she can find someone who fits this bill, she’ll instead turn to friends and family.

 Number 4: A female narcissist needs to be admired and adored by everyone but is never satisfied with their praise.

 If you’ve ever been around someone who needs constant attention, you’ve probably experienced dealing with a narcissist. She’ll do anything to get what she wants, including manipulating others into giving in to her. This can lead to an incredibly toxic environment where everyone suffers from stress and anxiety as they try and fail to keep up with their demands. She will always demand more and more attention.

But here’s something you might not know about a female narcissist; she’s not concerned with being admired, she also wants to be validated and it’s this need for validation that makes her so dangerous. She needs to feel like she has value to feel good about herself, which means female narcissists will do anything, and she’ll use anyone as long as it gets her what she wants.

 Number 5: A female narcissist always has to have the last word in any discussion, even if she doesn’t know what she’s talking about.

 If there’s one thing I’ve learned about female narcissists, it’s this: They never let you have the last word in any discussion, even if she doesn’t know what she’s talking about. She will not let you say anything. If you try to explain something to her, she’ll just say “whatever”, and move on. She’ll interrupt what you’re saying with her own comment, even if it has nothing to do with what you say.

It doesn’t matter if you have something important to say or even if she has nothing important to say. She will always try to make sure that whatever she says is final. Narcissistic women are often insecure about their intelligence and abilities. They rely on charm and confidence instead of knowledge because no one would like them.

 Number 6: A female narcissist doesn’t care about your feelings or needs.

 A female narcissist doesn’t care about your feelings or needs. She’s not interested in getting to know you, she doesn’t care about your hopes and dreams, and she certainly doesn’t want to listen to what’s going on in your life. She also won’t be there when you need her, she’ll be too busy dealing with everything that is wrong with herself.

 A female narcissist acts like she’s the center of the universe and expects people to cater to her needs. She will manipulate others for personal gain and expect them to be grateful for it. She’ll take her kindness for granted and cast you aside when she gets bored or finds someone new.

 Number 7: A female narcissist is very critical of others but never of herself.

 A female narcissist is very critical of others, but never of herself, even when deserved it. She thinks she’s above reproach and doesn’t understand why someone would fault her. She has such a high opinion that she can do no wrong. She lacks self-awareness and an inflated sense of her abilities, worthiness, and importance. She lacks empathy for others and thinks she is always right- This is what makes her so dangerous. She won’t ever admit that there are any problems with her behavior or personality, and she’ll go out of her way to convince you that you’re the one who needs to change.

 Number 8: A female narcissist is never willing to admit that she’s wrong, no matter what happens.

A female narcissist is never willing to admit that she’s wrong, no matter what happens. She’ll always be right and she’ll fight you on it if you disagree with her. A female narcissist will often become even more adamant when confronted with her mistakes. It’s not that she doesn’t understand that other people have different opinions than hers, she just doesn’t care.

She believes her opinion is the only one worth listening to. She will do everything to make sure that everyone knows it. She’ll simply ignore the facts presented and move on with her life without ever addressing the issue at hand.

 Number 9: A female narcissist appears to be endlessly disappointed with her life and everyone around her.

 She is constantly frustrated, and she often lashes out at the people she thinks are responsible for her problems. She will often complain that she has no friends or that her ex-boyfriends are jerks. She may say that she is very unlucky in love and has never had a boyfriend who understood her. She may also complain about how much work she has to do, how difficult it is to get through the day, and how exhausting it is to keep up with her responsibilities.

Number 10: A female narcissist will constantly try to make you feel bad about yourself.

By making herself seem like the perfect woman by making you look bad. This way, if someone else has a different idea of who they think she is than what she wants them to think, which isn’t likely, they will believe her lies because they don’t know any better. They know they need to make you feel like a loser to win. Narcissists will constantly try to make you feel like your opinion doesn’t matter or aren’t smart enough. They will tell you that you’re not good enough for them and that no one else would want to anyway.

Female narcissists will do this repeatedly until it eventually affects your self-esteem. When dealing with a female narcissist, the main points to remember are facing them head-on, staying aware, and not working hard for their approval. The best way to deal with a female narcissist is to treat her as anyone else; be polite and kind, and respectful, but don’t engage in their bad behavior. Demand respect from them, but give none back. Stay away from them as much as possible, and stay strong.

Read More: 10 Mental Illnesses You Get From Narcissists.

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