When it comes to Cruelty and manipulation, is there a Breaking Point for narcissists? How far do you think this is the case? How to stay one step ahead of them, so you no longer feel threatened or dominated? I really hope this article helps clarify things for you and addresses all your concerns.
So, there are 5 tried and true ways to shine brighter than a narcissist in any conversation, and we’ll go through them in today’s topic. Read to the end, because the last one is the most interesting and important.
Number 1: Stop projecting your own ideals into the narcissist and start focusing on their actual characteristics.
The biggest trap is a struggle to reconcile the narcissist’s presence throughout good and sorrowful times. There’s this internal struggle: you know a narcissist is bad, but you can’t help but be drawn to them for the temporary relief they promise from your constant pain. You keep justifying the narcissistic behavior due to cognitive and emotional dissonance, and you cling to what I would consider hopeless due to a lack of other options.
You presume that they are good people at heart despite their poor Behavior. I think you’re completely misunderstanding the point. There’s a risk that you’ll give them more opportunities than they deserve, giving in to their manipulation and unknowingly engaging in gaslighting. It’s not a wise way to think when you’re co-parenting or in a secret code war with another parent.
When you stop expecting them to fit some idealistic picture of yourself or the relationship, the spell will be broken. Friendship, teamwork, open communication, and regard for all concepts they see no use in because they don’t believe they can build upon or add to anything.
They are blind to the possibilities here. All the work put into making good on this promise would be in vain, given who they have proven to be. The person you saw when their Dark Side shocked and stunned you as the true one. Put distance between you and the situation and look for patterns in the way they interact. Indulge your enjoyment of life.
Seeing how they went from angels to Demons in an effort to keep you connected to them, and how every happy memory of your time together was stained by their abuse. While coming to terms with reality may be difficult, it will ultimately lead to liberation. After you’ve established that they’re a malicious force, you’ll always be on stronger ground.
Don’t be fooled by their kind attitude. You can count on them to display the same callousness right in front of your kids. In the Heat of a code conflict, they may resort to extreme measures. The more you are able to accept them for who they really are, the more control you will have in the relationship, and the more you will be able to handle everything they throw at you.
Don’t forget that once you identify the narcissist, they can no longer harm you. As an aside, a phenomenon called cognitive resonance occurs in tandem with trauma bonding and dramatic experiences.
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