In today’s article, we’ll be covering today all have one thing in common – to what extent do narcissists often resort when their strategies fail? When you have them exactly where you want them to be once they have been revealed completely, what happens when a narcissist loses control of their loved one?
Number 1: Narcissists have an extreme preoccupation with their own feelings and the approval of others, and they have difficulty taking criticism well.
They struggle to empathize and may resort to manipulative behavior as a result. Let’s be honest, we’ve all been there and done that – not quite extreme, but probably to a certain point. On the other hand, we see that these traits remain constant in those with pathological narcissism. It’s their state of being. Due to their vengeful nature, it is reasonable for them to fear the consequences when their secret is revealed.
In terms of their behavior, they are generally difficult to predict. However, it’s not hard to predict how a narcissist would act after feeling they’ve lost influence over you if you’ve ever had a platonic connection with one or were raised in a narcissistic family. Because narcissists place such a high value on other people’s praise and approval, this is to be expected.
They have no concept of self-identity and hence have no comprehension of the world. They will resort to bullying, threatening, intimidating, and humiliating people into giving them what they seek – attention and affirmation on their terms, which can be unrealistic. Their minds are always plagued by feelings of envy and shame, and the strangest part is that they often engage in repulsive actions to cover up their feeling and shame.
People who are cruel to others by disregard, rejection, punishment, infidelity, derision, etc. usually end up on their own. This is what happens to many narcissists. They always end up on their own because of their nasty behaviors. This means that they have a limited repertoire of responses to use when they lose control over someone.
They may even try to reconcile with you in person – they certainly are, but maybe not in terms of the harm they’ve caused. Mostly, they’re sorry because of what they face at the moment – the fact that they’ve lost a valuable narcissistic supply. They’re sorry for the fact that they’re all alone again, being abandoned. They feel ashamed that now they’re exposed.
An alternative is to provide an explanation before offering an apology, such as “It’s not me, it’s my anxiousness,” “The fact that our mill is out of my control,” or “I’m unable to regulate my actions because of my addiction to this substance. Please accept my apologies.” After all, you also said something that deeply hurt me years ago. Things may go around that line. Unfortunately, most apologies are forgotten after a short period of time has passed, whether it is one day or one week. They’d go back to their old self.
Narcissists tend to revert to their previous behavior patterns. Exceptionally talented narcissists don’t have trouble changing their gameplay. They simply discover novel approaches to old problems – the same thing, only a different setup. They can act as if they’re trying to reason with you rather than apologize. Just picture this person taking the gray rock approach where they just answer inquiries with a single word or the no contact approach where they simply stop answering queries.
Sending a text or email with the message “I’ve no idea what I’ve done to hurt you, but I’ll always love you” is a common manner of expressing regret for past wrongdoings and assuring the recipient of one’s eternal love. In such a situation, you can probably anticipate a lot of jumbled words followed by a threat like “and I’m going to let other people know what you’re like,” but still, I want you to know that my feelings for you will never change.
If you do receive such a message, or if you do receive an apology, pleading, or tears, perhaps you are contemplating giving them another chance. I won’t talk you out of it, but I will ask you to think about drawing on your experience. I mean, how many times can they say sorry before you stop listening? Perhaps it wasn’t a large sum, but how many were there? So, the negative behavior ended after the apologies were issued, correct? Since this has always been the case before, why should this time be any different?
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